Three strategies I have discovered to help my husband truly hear me

I am definitely not an expert on this. Just last weekend, Matt and I went out for a nice dinner date, and I brought up a topic I wanted to apologize for. It was a sensitive issue: animals. He can't stand them, and I love them. It's funny how opposites attract, isn't it? One difficult topic led to another: taxes. My least favorite time of year. I had previously asked him to set aside at least two hours for our tax appointment. Initially, I think he did, but then he scheduled a client during that time. Two days before our tax appointment, I asked him how much time we would have. He responded, and the look of disgust on my face shows that God is still refining me!

The three strategies I aim to employ when communicating with my husband:

1. From various personality tests I've taken over the years, I've discovered that Matt enjoys seeing me cheerful and flirtatious with him. Before discussing anything, I make an effort to smile and flirt with him. For instance, because we work together, we frequently joke about how our home is also our workplace. I often start my day by saying, "have a good day boss," with a smile and a wink, which sets a positive tone for her day.

2. Something I learned from Matt's time in the Army is to always bring at least one possible solution when presenting a problem. In our marriage, I try to suggest at least one potential solution and begin with a compliment. As parents, we were often advised not to focus solely on disciplining negative behaviors but to also acknowledge positive ones. This principle applies to marriage as well. Always appreciate the positives and express gratitude to your spouse. Refer to: 30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge | Articles | Revive Our Hearts

3. As the old adage our parents often repeated goes, "if you don't have anything nice to say, then don't say anything at all." This principle is certainly effective when applied to your marriage.

   
   

   Remember, some days will be simpler than others. Persist and understand that through the power of the Holy Spirit within you, you can enhance communication with your spouse. Pray these principles over your marriage and trust that God will work in and through you to help you become a more effective communicator.